Breatfeeding Mom
Breatfeeding Mom
For moms who are breastfeeding...do you feel breatfeeding is making you hungrier?
My baby is 3 weeks old and I'm breastfeeding her. I don't remember with my first baby, but with this one I've noticed my increase in appetite. I'm eating well, 3 times a day, very healthy, I'm not dieting or anything.
Anyone else feel this? Is it normal?
Thanks!
Not hungry, but thirsty, very thirsty. I drink a 5 gallon jug of water to myself in a matter of days.
Mother in law problem?
My friend is having problems with her mother in law. My friend is exclusivly breatfeeding, but her MIL (who was unable to BF her kids) is somewhat against breastfeeding and thinks she should be bottle feeding. Even though she knows my friend has no intentions of bottle feeding she bought the baby a bottle warmer.
When she tells her mother in law that she needs to take the baby from her to feed her and put her to sleep her mother in law will walk out of the room (with the baby) or just completely ignore her and not give her the baby. She also ignores her when she tries to show her that the baby is doing sign language for milk. It sometimes takes up to an hour before herMIL will give the baby to her to put her to sleep.
Her boyfirend doesn't see that his mother is doing this and wont acknowledge that their is a problem and wont say anything to his mom or back her up if she says anything. What should she do?
I have seen this SO many times!! Often, from what I've seen, Mothers-in-law have a hard time letting go of their sons to begin with, and feel some 'right' to rear their son's child, even more so if she doesn't have any daughters, mothers of sons seem to have such a hard time letting go of them! And if the son fits the classic example, he's never going to step between his Mom and her way of doing things - for whatever reason?!
That said, my advice is to sit with boyfriend or if you feel comfortable with MIL, and say, "Look, with all due respect, you 've done an amazing job with your son, aka the father of my child, but it's my turn to be the Mother now, and I'd really appreciate if you could let me do it my way, so that I can learn with my child how this whole parenting thing works... There are certain ways I like things done, and although you may not agree, I breastfeed my child, so when I say it's time for him to eat, you need to be respectful of ME as the MOTHER, and let me feed him and put him to sleep." If son or MIL don't comply, guess what - you're the MOTHER NOW, and if you need a drastic movement to make a point, withhold MIL the right to see the baby until she complies!
Fortunately for me, my MIL is awesome and sees this happening with other families, so when I see an example of the ugliness that can happen with in-laws, I always bring it to my MIL's attention by saying to my MIL, "I just want you to know how much I appreciate how you respect me and let me do the parenting when It's my turn. Check out [this situation]. I love when you share your opinion, and offer advice, but thank you so much for letting me be the mother." Once, she babysat and I gave her a bottle of breastmilk (just in case). He fussed a little, she fed him the bottle and he threw up on her, he clearly wasn't hungry! She was also unable to breastfeed with all four of her sons and has voiced to me that I should give him a bottle of formula if he's acting hungry - but I never have. I know about the 'cluster-feedings' breastfed babies do to prepare our bodies for a growth spurt, so he may eat 8 minutes every hour and it's getting my body ready to produce more milk, he's not doing that becuase I'm out of milk... a lot has changed since your friend's MIL's generation.
Good luck, it's a very uncomfortable situation to be in, I have several friends who have gone through it, but the thing that seems to work best is communication, and if you stay quiet about it, ultimately, the baby suffers most!!! Be the child's biggest advocate by having the 'sac' to speak up to your mother-in-law about what's best for baby!! She had her turn raising a baby, it's your turn now - do it the way you want it done. Breastmilk is best, keep up the great work!!!!
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